How to get rid of fear

Fear plays a very important part in our lives. Most of us have soaring imagination that makes us picture the worst scenarios possible for any given situation. What do we do in such cases? How do we get rid of this all pervading fear?

Keep a notebook and jot down whatever causes you worry or fear about the next week. Cover every day of the coming week. Once you have written it down, put it away and don’t touch it till the week is over. Take out the notebook and go through what you’ve written. How much of your fears have actually come true? In most cases, hardly any. Or the damage may have been minimal when compared to your worst imagination. In fact, you may have handled the situation wonderfully well! So remember, self doubts are part of the game.

We fear most when it is a question of our survival. We are often torn with doubts about our physical well being threatened by some force. What is the likelihood that a life-threatening situation will materialize? How do I act in such a situation? Have I faced such problems before? If so, how have I tackled them? Ask yourself these revealing questions

Ask yourself leading questions about your fear. Be totally proactive. Are you the type who tends to criticize everyone including yourself? Why don’t you find positive things to say and think instead? Try to think of what the other person might be expecting from you and respond appreciatively for a change. Notice the change in your attitude.

Stop assuming things. Assumptions will only make us unnecessarily miserable. “What will happen if my boyfriend loses interest in me? I will never find anyone else in my life!” or “I better be careful what I tell my boyfriend. If I criticize him too much, he might move on to someone else!” or “Maybe there is something wrong with me that I am finding fault like this!” Once you realize that your assumptions are unreasonable and not based on facts, your whole perspective will change.

This will clear your mind and give you a fresh perspective on things. If it was your problem, how would you solve it? What can I do to make a difference? How would I look at this problem a year hence?

Some of us go into complete denial in order to avoid facing the problem. You have to recognize this and get out of this situation as you cannot afford to ignore any problem – it might take a serious turn later. Try to recall instances when you have gone into denial and how it affected you.

These are a few tips that will help you to get rid of the fear factor that might keep you from positive action. Try them if you are one of those affected and do blog with your views on this factor that lays spoilsport in many of our lives.

Six quick office workout methods

Given today's fast-paced lifestyle, our bodies are condemned to hours of sitting and working on PC, which naturally takes a toll on one's health. Apart from a constant strain on our eyes, we also suffer from neck pain and numbness in fingers.

Due to long hours of sitting, certain parts of the body become stiff and others get weak.If you aren't using your muscles and joints enough, they get weaker over time. Eventually, your overall ability to function or do things with these muscles fades, making normal activities more difficult and eventually, impossible.

Likewise, when held in any particular position for a prolonged period, joints and muscles tend to adapt to that one position. The muscles you use during your job stay active, while those you don't use waste away. So the key to preventing this from happening is to keep your joints and muscles active throughout the day by doing some quick office workouts. The good news is that you can squeeze a workout, no matter how busy your day is.

Here are some tips on fitting exercise into your frensied life. Taking time to do these simple, but effective exercises in office will surely keep you toned.

1. Stretches for your wrists and arms: You can take some time out to do stretching exercises. Stretching exercises alleviate you from tension and stiffness in the joints. You can perform these in office at any time.

Wrist stretch: It's relaxing to get into a really good stretching session to release the accumulated tension our bodies suffer each day. Extend your arm in front with the palm up and grab fingers with the other hand. Now, gently pull your hand down to stretch the forearm. This exercise can be repeated several times.

Wrist and Forearm: Press your hands together in front of your chest, elbows bent and parallel to the floor.

Now, gently bend your wrists to the right and left. This exercise can be repeated several times throughout the day. Back twist: Sit upright in the chair and place your left arm behind your left hip. Now, twist to the left and hold, repeating on the other

Chair squat: Squats are excellent for toning your front and rear thigh muscles, as well as your buttocks! While sitting, lift your butt off the seat and hover over the chair. Now, hold this position for as long as you can. This exercise can be done 8 to 10 times for best results. For an intense challenge, perform the same exercise with one foot off the ground. Push ups: This is a great exercise to work your chest, shoulders and arms. The key is to focus on your breathing (exhale as you exert yourself) and to always maintain a flat back. Lean forward and place your hands slightly wider than your shoulder width apart on the desk. Your feet should be placed together with your legs fully extended. As with a regular push-up, simply bend at the elbow and bring your chest towards the desktop. To work different areas of the chest and arm muscles, you may vary the distance between your hands. Perform this exercise 10 to 30 times.